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May 2, 2024

#98 S4 EP 18: Bridging Hearts Through Understanding An Insightful Look at Relationship Communication

#98 S4 EP 18: Bridging Hearts Through Understanding An Insightful Look at Relationship Communication

Have you ever sensed a disconnect in your relationships, despite your efforts? Catherine and I, along with our insightful guests, peel back the layers of love languages, revealing how these vital forms of expression forge deep bonds in our personal and spiritual lives. We delve into the subtleties of verbal and non-verbal communication, discussing Gary Chapman's five love languages, and share our own journeys of how honoring these languages has been pivotal in understanding and validating our loved ones. Missteps in language can lead to feelings of neglect, something both Michael and I have experienced firsthand, and we open up about how adapting to each other's evolving communication styles is essential.

As our conversation unfolds, we confront the reality that the initial spark in relationships often dims post-marriage and the significance of intentional growth to reignite that flame. We take a hard look at the necessity for continuous communication, stressing that it's not just about weathering storms but also about nurturing the everyday moments that fortify a relationship. Our personal narratives underscore how an earnest effort to learn and speak each other's love language can transform interactions, whether in the context of marriage, business ventures, or family ties. Join us for a heart-to-heart on the power of love languages to sustain and enrich the connections that matter most.

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Chapters

00:35 - Understanding Love Languages

14:31 - Relationship Communication and Growth Lesson

Transcript
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Hello, hello and welcome back.

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Gods, diamonds and the rough.

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We are so glad to be before you one more time.

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Hello.

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If you don't know who I am, my name is Catherine.

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And that's right.

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I'm your boy, michael.

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Yes, we are always glad to be before you.

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Amen, always, always, always.

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Today we got a hot topic, of course, as we always do.

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Amen, as we just finished talking about spiritual warfare, we had two witnesses or guests outside of ourselves that talked about it a little bit.

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But before we get into our topic, I guess it would be appropriate to see how one another's doing.

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I'm doing wonderful.

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I'm super excited about this episode because you know I ain't gonna get, I ain't gonna let y'all know what it is yet, but I'm super excited about this because this is, you know, a hot topic for me.

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You know, you know I got a lot of insight on it.

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Yeah, yeah, I ain't going to get it.

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I ain't going to let y'all know yet.

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All right, y'all.

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How about a split of beans?

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Y'all know what we're getting ready to do before we get into it.

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Let's go.

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Dear Heavenly Father, our Lord and our Savior, Jesus Christ, we just come to you once again to say thank you.

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Think of your grace and your mercy, your love and kindness and the ten of mercies.

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We beg your forgiveness for anything we might have said, done or thought that's not pleasing to your sight.

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That you would gracefully forgive us and cast it back into the picture of hell where it came from.

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We pray in the name of you.

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Forgive us for anything we might have said.

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Picture of hell where it came from.

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We ask your Holy Spirit and invite your Holy Spirit to come along with us as we get into your word, get into your revelation, get into what your people, your diamonds, need to hear.

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We pray in the name of Jesus.

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Your Holy Spirit, just have its way.

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We counsel any assignment of the enemy that will be sent back into the pit of hell where it came from.

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In Jesus Christ, holy and max his name.

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Thank you and we say amen, amen and amen amen, hallelujah.

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So today, everybody, um, we are talking about language, language, language language.

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We talked about spiritual warfare in about three episodes, the last three episodes, so you can check those out if you will.

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But when we talk about spiritual warfare, it's, you know, it's something that is happening within, and when you associate language, it's the same thing.

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We've touched on this topic as well as we previously touched on spiritual warfare, but we've talked about this language, about this topic of language, the fact that we speak a verbal language, but we also have body language.

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We got a lot of languages that we really don't touch, and so today we want to just kind of brush over a few in regard to basically what is coming, and I think that the main one that should be discussed by us before we actually get into it with a few of our guests is love language.

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What are your thoughts in that regard, michael?

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You know, my thought about love language is what you see yourself as or how you like to be treated, because you know there's I think it's five love languages that we have.

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It's either five or six, because we've read a book about it.

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Gary Chet, yeah, have it's either five or six because we've read a book about it.

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Um, yeah, and you know that that puts you in in depth in the book.

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Uh, it's quite a few of them.

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It's um.

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One love language is that of giving like, um, like some people, they you're saying to them that you love them by giving them something.

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Somebody else, uh, you saying that you love them by giving them something.

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Somebody else, you saying that you love them by spending time with them.

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For another, it is like an intimacy type of language.

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There's two more.

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Affirmation.

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Yeah, affirmation, and it's one more.

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And these are all in Gary Chapman's book Love Languages.

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But we just wanted to kind of again talk about love language.

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You know well when we that devil is a liar, the way we see love language.

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For me, you know language in itself.

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You know you're saying something.

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So for me, when you don't say anything to me, this is just me personally.

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It means that for me it's a word of rejection.

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What do you think?

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What about you.

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What about you?

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For me, it's like for me, if you don't reach the love language that I have, it's more of a sign of neglect and disrespect.

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Yeah, neglect and disrespect, okay.

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Well, that makes sense because, uh, um, in the word is, the responsibility of the wife in a marriage relationship is to respect her husband, and for the husband is to love his wife.

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So you know for you to say disrespect because that wife, so you know for you to say disrespect.

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I guess that kind of makes sense.

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You know, neglect, that's powerful, and rejection for me, I believe that's powerful as well.

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So what do you hear, michael, when you say, when I say rejection, what does that mean to you?

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And I'll tell you what neglect means to me.

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Or rather, let's do it this way you tell us, tell our diamonds, what does neglect mean to you, and I will tell what rejection means to me, to me, since that's what we feel when we're not receiving the love language, the way we mechanically regard to how God put us together well, I would definitely add in the neglect and disrespect as one, because it's almost like when you fear the way that shouldn't be neglected or disrespected.

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It's almost as you know.

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For me it's like when my value isn't valued as a man.

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Say that again.

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When my value of a man isn't valued.

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When you're valued.

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What's that mean?

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With my worth?

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Yeah, isn't valued when you're valued.

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what's that mean With my worth, when, when I guess my, my makeup?

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I guess, and I ain't talking about the makeup you put on your face, because I don't put no makeup on y'all, but it's you know the way a man is designed.

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It's almost like I know what I'm saying.

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But I can't explain it.

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Yeah, well, what do you mean?

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I mean, okay, you said a man's word.

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Yeah, what was the other part of it?

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When a man's worth W-O-R-T-H isn't valued, isn't valued.

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So who defines your worth?

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God does.

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And so, when people don't see what God sees, show what God has built within the individuals.

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Is that what you're?

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saying Mm-hmm.

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When people don't value what God has put in them.

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So let me play devil's advocate.

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What if you don't value what God has put in you, even though we're talking about how we express it to somebody else?

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I mean, I guess it goes hand in hand, because if you don't value, if somebody doesn't value you for what God has put in you, and you don't value yourself, so how can somebody else value you?

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Amen, yeah.

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They'll value you, amen.

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Yeah, so what I'm hearing is, if you don't take the time to figure out what you need, then how can anybody else give you what you need?

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Yeah, and for me, you know, he said well, I said rejection.

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Rejection because I know from a woman's perspective, most women not all women, but most women because we've been made emotional creatures.

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We tend to express how we feel and what's wrong in this, that and the other to whoever's listening.

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You know, hopefully it's your husband if you're married, but whoever's you know close to you Because you express love language.

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You ain't got to be married to express a love language, or whatever have you.

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You can be a best friend relationship, a sister and a brother relationship, a parent to a child relationship, whatever have you.

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Either way, you're expressing love languages.

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And for me, coming down to rejection, if you don't listen to me, if we're having a conversation, I'll just use this, for example and we're having a conversation and I'm talking to you and telling you how I feel, or I'm, um, trying to express you know what I was wrong and you say you try to brush over what I'm saying, or you try to cut me short, to keep me from saying whatever, because you don't want to hear what I'm saying, then for me, that says you're to me.

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I feel like you're rejecting me because I'm telling you how I feel, and I don't know if there's any other diamonds that feel that way, but that's just me, catherine, personally, how I feel.

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And have we not had many conversations like that?

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Yeah, where you have come on, say it.

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Me.

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You, what have you done?

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Tried to dismiss what I was saying or cut it off, and I get very upset when he does that and when anybody does that.

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I get very upset when he does that and when anybody does that.

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You know, for me, if you are in a relationship, then it takes two, and I believe this is, catherine that if you got two in a conversation, both sides need to hear each other, sides need to hear each other.

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And if you had only one person listening, or only one person talking and nobody's listening, then you're never, you'll never get to the place where you could understand the other.

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You understand what I'm saying.

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You know I mean and you know.

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It ought to make perfect sense when you're thinking about A foreign language.

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If you don't learn the language, how will you ever be able To understand?

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And in any relationship, if you learn the language, you'll be able to, you will be able to understand the individual.

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You gonna say something.

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No, I'm just listening Because you know it's easier to say it than done.

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But we got to realize that and I think and I'll just say this first because this is going to put it into perspective, and I'll just say this first because this is going to put it into perspective I think the problem with most and I said most and I did say most is the fact that it requires a lot of attention, yeah, yeah, and a lot of people aren't willing to commit to that responsibility or that attention.

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Yeah, that's a great point.

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I think that that's a great point because, because, because, see, this is why it's important for you to invest time in the relationship, because if you understand the background, you understand, you'll understand why they respond, why they do what they do.

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And if and then we'll just use the Michael Staudt of attention.

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If you're used to always being the center of attention and then he comes along and he don't give you that attention, then you find yourself feeling rejected, you feel neglected, whatever have you.

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You know, a lot of relationships start that way, especially when they're like dating type relationship.

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They get all of your attention.

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Vice versa, versa, you're giving each other all this attention and then, okay, this is a man of my dreams, whatever have you, he didn't ask me to marry me, marry him or whatever have you.

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Y'all get married and then, all of a sudden, all of that attention that he was giving you you was giving him, it just stops.

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We're married're married.

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Now I have her, I have him, and now we stop dating each other.

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That, depending on the heart of the other, that can make the.

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You can likely start to have problems in that relationship Because you started off doing something and now all of a sudden you've stopped.

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Yeah, and you know, just to be a little bit transparent, michael and I struggled with that for early, early in our marriage, where, when we got married I mean because at first I mean each other was the center of each other's attention and then, after we got married, for me it seemed, to me it just didn't seem the same as it was, and I oftentimes voiced my opinion and you know not all men, but this particular man, mine he kind of looked at me like, oh, here we go again, here we go again.

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This is when we began to listen, when we began to read the love languages, to try to figure out what is going on, you know, and whether you want to or not, sometimes help is necessary to bring things in order.

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And you know, even you know, and I'm going to tell you like this, guys and I know it's a lot of guys listening, but I'm going to say this first and I'm going to say something else.

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My first thought, you know, that's why I believe the statistics are so high on failed marriages, because you get into the moment where I got her now or I got him now and I ain't got to try so hard.

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But see, we got to understand this.

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Look what you did to get her or what you did to get him.

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You have to continue to do to keep them.

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And I'll say this, you know, and you know, like you just said, you know, with me I always had a point of oh, here we go again.

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And you know, I didn't necessarily know how to say that which brought us to the next language is our body language.

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If you have an ugly body language or an ugly face, or smirk on your face or early, or ugly, ugly way of, of feeling it's going to put off and you might even receive that ugly thing.

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Whatever you put out, If you, if you come out negative or, or a wishy or wish he would just be quiet or or whatever, don't be surprised if you get the same thing in return, because I'm going to tell you.

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I'm going to tell you something God has a particular and strategic way of making you eat what you sowed.

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He has a funny way of making you reap what you sow Amen.

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It's almost like a boomerang, and y'all already heard me making this statement before and probably in the past podcast that when you point a finger at somebody, you got three pointing back at you.

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So in the same statistics is when you acting this way, don't be surprised if it that same action that you put towards her or him comes right back on you.

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And it's not to hurt you, it's to teach you a lesson.

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And it's not to hurt you, it's to teach you a lesson.

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Yeah, it's important.

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It's really, really important that we be mindful of the language that we are speaking and you know, investing that time to learn his or her language at whatever relationship it is, is it really becomes a hurdle.

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It's a really, it's a big hurdle that once you come over it you can go a little further in the relationship.

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The trust is built and everything else when you learn the language.

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Hallelujah, so you know.

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I say that because over the years, over the years, michael and I have been married nine years now and over the years we've learned how to adjust to one another.

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It's still, you know, I mean he still has himself and I'm still having myself.

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We are growing together, each at our own pace and you know, when you understand that as well, that's another dynamic that will hold the relationship together.

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When you understand that both parties are growing prayerfully and if you know nobody's growing, then probably ain't nothing changing.

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You know what I mean then probably ain't nothing changing, you know what I mean.

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Or, if one side is changing and the other isn't, then you know, then you got the side that's changing doing all the work and it ain't going to last.

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That won't last either, you know, if you want the relationship to survive the storm, then you both got to be there.

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Amen Again.

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That's in any relationship, whether it's a marriage, a business relationship, best friends, parent to child, whatever have you?

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You got to make up your mind at the beginning.

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I'm here, you know.

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I know a lot of marriages wise.

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They go into the marriage saying divorce is not a thing.

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You know they've already decided that when I marry you, I plan to marry you and be with you till death.

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Do us part.

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They've already decided no divorce.

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And when you put the cards on the table like that, then you know you have to be intentional about keeping it together.

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Yeah, I mean, I'm going to tell you something.

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I'm going to say this If you have a significant other and you both speak in the love language, don't compromise, because what do you mean?

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Don't compromise what I mean.

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Don't compromise with me, don't take it at face value.

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See beyond that go deeper.

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I'm just trying to understand deeper, that's all um, come back to me.

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Come back to me.

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I mean, I know what I'm getting at, yeah, but it's it's.

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It's hard for me to explain it once it's up in my head.

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I'd be sitting on it in my head for a minute and then, when it's time to bring it, it don't sound like the way I thought it was.

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Yeah, Well, you know those of y'all that have been here for a while, you know and I say this to him all the time you know it's all a process.

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You know what I mean, and if we never are challenged with going deeper, then we won't.

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You know what I mean.

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When we are in relationship, when we are standing before people and we are, you know we are in the the room.

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Don't just be there, but be there.

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You understand what I'm saying?

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Um, be there.

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Know that your body language matters, what you're saying matters.

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If you're in the room, you're supposed to be in there, let them know that you are there.

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Yeah, you're in the relationship.

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Be in the the relationship.

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You know, don't go.

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You know playing games or whatever.

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If you're going to be in the relationship, just be in the relationship.

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You know what I mean, because I guarantee you, when you put your whole foot out there, the other person will too as well.

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Yeah, and you know, even with that body language, and you say this to me so many times, honey, and.

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I'm going to say this to any down that is listening, and if I get in your business, I'm sorry.

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But there's one thing you got to understand too, and your body language doesn't even have to be with your spouse or your love language with your spouse.

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It could be your love language with God.

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If you're sitting, if you're sitting in your congregation and you have your arms crossed in front of you, how can the Holy Spirit come into your heart if it's being blocked?

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And that's so true because, think about it, where's your heart?

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In the center of your chest?

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If you got your arms folded in front of you, that's like telling God that you don't want to hear what he's saying.

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So that body language speaks just not only with your spouses, but it also speaks with your relationship with God.

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That's a word.

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That's a word, it really is, because we don't even realize it, but we're saying without saying a word.

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You know all the time, all the time.

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So for the next couple of episodes, we're going to be talking about love, language in individuals, in couples, in marriage and all kinds of things.

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So you know, y'all, make sure y'all stay tuned to, to, uh, the podcast and what is coming, because you know God speaks in so many ways that if you're not open to him you'll miss it.

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Hallelujah.

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And you know, I just want to remind every diamond that you know this podcast is not, it is not meant to to quote scripture with every, you know, on every single episode.

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It's not.

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But it is to reach anybody, the saved and the unsaved, to see that there is something on the inside of you that God wants you to dig out so you can see the beauty he can give you.

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The beauty or the ashes.

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It is something on the inside of each and every one of us that makes us shine, Amen.

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And until we can find it and see the value of it, it will just remain dormant inside of us, amen.

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So we had already decided we wouldn't be with you very long today, right around 30 minutes.

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So we want to encourage youall to make sure you stick around as we continue the conversation about language, love, language.

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I just think that I might stick in an episode about people who call it love to put their hands on somebody.

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You know what I mean?

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Yeah, because we got about two or three guests who came in talking about the trauma of an abusive relationship.

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We also have a guest that's talking about, um, this thing that he got cubed, he created um, that makes you intentional about uh, focusing on love languages every day.

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Um, in, in, in how you encounter people in general, um, and you know, I mean it's, it's gonna be good, and so, uh, we just encourage you to keep on riding with us, amen, as we're on this journey.

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Uh, shout out to julie amen, she's faithful.

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Every single week she's here and she's the one that I know that's faithfully listening, and we just thank her, um, yeah, for being faithful, and I'm so glad that we can be a light for some folks.

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Amen, I think we got about four that's consistently listening.

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Every single uh time an episode comes out, there's like four people who listen um and download it, and so we are excited, I'm excited and I just want to say thank you so much for allowing us to be able to sow what God has given to us into your life, into your heart, amen.

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So that's my final word.

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I hope y'all stay tuned for coming episodes, the coming season.

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Just before you go, michael, the next season that is coming, season five, I believe, that's going to air in september, uh, september or october.

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Um, it's all about trauma, all about trauma, and we're gonna go back to the once a week.

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I this two week, two times a week.

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It's it's a little bit much, but we're doing it because we committed to doing it.

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Amen, uh, but the next season, just look forward to it.

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Trauma into triumphancy, trauma into triumphancy.

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So we're going to hear a lot of, uh, intimate details on how people have overcome trauma, um, in their lives and what good has come out of it.

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Um, for the glory of God, amen, hallelujah.

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So, michael, you know, just my final word.

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Before I give the final word, you know, god gave me an epiphany.

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It's an old saying with a deeper twist of understanding.

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With a deeper twist of understanding.

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And the old saying is if you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all.

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And the twist is, silence is not a form of weakness, humility is everything.

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Okay, hmm, yeah, weakness, humility is everything.

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Do I got to say that again?

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Go ahead, say it again.

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Silence is not a form of weakness.

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Humility is everything.

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Hallelujah, Alright y'all.

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Y'all know what time it is.

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Time to pray.

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Time to pray.

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Can't forget to pray.

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Amen, hallelujah.

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Father, we thank you so much for your grace and your mercy.

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Thank you so much for just allowing us to be us.

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Father, we thank you for every diamond that is here, every word that you've given us to say we thank you, father.

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Continue to use us for your glory.

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We pray that, whatever situation might be going on in the hearts of diamonds that you've drawn here, god, that you would just show up in their lives.

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Father, we thank you.

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We bless your name.

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In Jesus Christ's name, we do pray, amen.

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Amen.

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Amen, amen, amen, amen.

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Now's time, now's time, until next time.

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Remember you are a diamond in the rough.

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Amen, we'll see y'all next week.